Since I can remember, I’ve always felt like an outcast, like I didn’t fit in, and a lot of that is to do with the colour of my skin. I was raised by my white family so often forgot that I was mixed race. I was reminded constantly by others, though.
For a really long time, I googled ‘mixed race bloggers’ and couldn’t find anyone that spoke to me in a way that made me feel better about myself, but then I discovered Lisette and her video of the Mixed Girl Tag. I watched it with wide eyes, realising that she was answering questions in the same way that I would have.
So here you have it, the Mixed Girl Tag questions. I hope you enjoy it.
What are you mixed with?
My dad’s family is from Jamaica and my mum is white.
What ethnicity are you mistaken for?
I don’t often get mistaken for anything, people just ask where I’m from because I “look exotic”…
Is your hair curly or straight?
Naturally curly but I used to straighten the heck out of it because I don’t like how it looks on me. I’ve actually started my Natural Hair Journey so keep checking back to see how I’m getting on!
Was coming from different backgrounds challenging growing up?
Oh god yes. I was raised by my white family and rarely saw my black family so would forget that I wasn’t white. I’d introduce my family and people would say “oh you don’t look alike…” because of the colour of my skin.
Which backgrounds did you embrace the most?
Like I said, I rarely saw my Dad’s side of the family and have no idea about their history. It’s impossible to embrace a background that you have no idea about.
Have you ever been teased for being different?
I wouldn’t see it as being teased because I would roll my eyes at the stupid comments. Two of the black girls in my year at school came up to me one day and said: “you know, you’re the only mixed race girl in the year?”. I can’t remember if they had a point but that always stuck with me.
Have you ever been ashamed of being multiracial?
This is a tough one because I have often wished to be like the rest of my family; white, green/blue eyes, a cute little nose… I hate my nose with a passion and I have moles on my face that my Dad calls “beauty spots”. I hate them.
As I got older, people would say that they were jealous of my skin because I could tan really quickly and it’s always super soft, so I’ve learned to accept my skin, not necessarily love it.
Do you feel that being mixed has its benefits?
A guy I dated asked me this once. He asked if he thought I was better than everyone else because I had the best of both worlds… I thought it was an idiotic question at the time, but thinking about it now… Yes, it has its benefits.
I have two cultures that I can be part of, I have two families that are polar opposites and I have two cuisines that I can learn to cook. I have the advantage of tanning really quickly and I have the ability to forge my own path.
What makes being multiracial a beautiful thing?
I think the fact that two people loved each other enough to make a baby, despite the obvious differences, is a beautiful thing. It still might not be accepted in some places, but the fact that they both opened their minds and rejected stereotypes to fall in love is beautiful.
Any advice to someone who struggles with their multiracial identity?
I wish someone had told me that it’s ok to struggle, and it’s ok to talk about that struggle. If you are still in contact with both sides of your family, learn as much about them as possible. Look up your family trees, go and visit their hometowns if you can (I can’t afford to hop on a plane to Jamaica but you get my drift!), just take it all in. Identity has a lot to do with knowledge and if you know where you started, it’s easier to know where you are and where you’re going.
Are you mixed race? Have a go at answering the tag yourself, there are no wrong answers!
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